Just five months ago during an evening when all of my family members were
taking tea sitting in the dining I declared my though saying angrily….I think I
am not your real child, you had adopted me.
Visit my house and then with no reason(illogically)
shout out or insult Mr. and Mrs. Sarkar and see the reaction…yah, they will
neither be angry nor shout at you for sure.
I rarely talk with Mr. Sarkar…coz our ideology does
not match at all.
Here Mr. and Mrs. Sarkar obviously those two people
who are my Parents…My Dad and Mom.
There are few families who repeatedly taken help
from my parents and repeatedly showed their ungratefulness, after receiving the
help for the first time from my parents they showed the extreme level of
ungratefulness and again when they needed help they asked it from my parents,
my parents helped them and again they did not show minimum gratefulness….they
do it because they know full well that my parents will always help them.
Few years back, those days we were going through
some financial crisis and it was really surprising for me because I came to
know that my Dad has a good salary, good enough for our family, though my
parents provided us all our necessities and tried to hide the financial
condition from us but after a certain age you can easily realize what is going
on, when I asked Mom the reason she did not answer, it’s my elder maternal
uncle who made me clear that taking loan my father helped someone and that
person has not repaid…”You have the foods , the cloths and other necessary
things but if I did not help him then he
would surely starve with his family”…this is what my parents answered when I asked them the reason.
“One day they will surely realize their mistakes”
“Perform your duties and responsibilities without
judging the people”
“Let God take care of their wrong activities”
“Just focus on your work”
These are some very common sentences I have heard
many times from my parents when I asked them the reason of helping the ungrateful
people and not giving a lesson to the wrong ones.
Why I am talking about my parents? Because it’s very
natural that you will see the reflections of parents in their children but in
case of us it has not happened…
My Sister…who has very much similarities with my
parents and I am a totally different one….
She also believes in performing her duties and
responsibilities without judging the people.
She also has a very kind heart and mind.
If you insult my sister (Parents also) they will not
going to speak a single word.
But like my Sister and parents I will not keep my
mouth shut if you try to harm or insult me…like you I will not make harm or
insult you but where is the problem to tell the truth?…to tell you why you are
wrong, to show you how much mean and fraud you are…you mean people you always need the help of lie but I
never need it…
It’s not about revenge…it’s about showing you the
power of truth.
During school days we had to write explanations
of short poems/two liners, those days I read…
“Dog has behaved according to their nature and has
bitten you but you are a human being and you should perform accordingly”(Origianl poem was in Bengali)
Means if a dog bites us then should we bite him in
return, we are human being and there should be the reflection of human natures
in our behaviors…here writing “dog’s
bite” the poet wanted to mean the
wrong activity of some people…this is the thing my family members believe and
my sister also but I have a thought on
it….if a dog bite me I will not bite him in return but for sure I will give him
a powerful kick so that the Dog never get the enough courage to bite me.
I have always seen reflections of my parents in my
sister…she is very much involved in religious activities like Puja, fasting
etc, she (like our Mom)never has much interest in non-veg., like my father she
is an avid reader and has huge knowledge in her subject(English literature),
like my parents she is very much dedicated in her work.
Her interest in religious and spiritual books is one
of the biggest differences between us.
She is very talkative and loves to spend time with
parents on the other hand I rarely talk and always like to spend time alone(Childhood
nature), sometime it happens that being in home hardly two three times(lunch,
dinner etc) I meet with my family. Once in a tour my I booked a separate hotel
much away from the hotel my parents and sister were staying.
She is very
caring about our parents.
I am a firm believer of “Love” and firmly disbelieve
arranged marriage on the other hand my sister never believed in such “love”,
calls it a “foolish activity” she has always believed that God has made certain
one for each human being and with time we will get married with him/her….this
is the reason my sister does not like love or break up shayris(Specially mine).
From the morning to evening she keeps everyone in a
joyous mood making jokes and funny activities and when she is absent the
dialogue I remember is..”Itna sannata kyun hai bhai?”
Our cousins have already declared that after the
marriage of my sister they will not visit our house…”with whom we will spend
time? We can’t spend all the time with the elder ones, this is the fact”…they
say it.
Watching TV is one of the most interesting things my
Sister loves to do and it’s been more than three years I have watched
television for long time (Hardly ten minutes/day).
Sometime it really surprises me how can be so many
differences between me and my sister in life style, in thought process and in
the philosophy of life?..we have born and brought up in almost same
circumstances and the basic teachings are from the same parents…yah, there are
some similarities also…the ethics and moral values, we both have not done any activity
which are highly un-ethical (stealing biscuit or ice cream is a different
matter), we have never cheated anyone and never interfere or melt our noses in
anyone’s business, we don’t talk behind any person and never praise falsely to
gain profit.
Differences in thoughts and life style will
continue…This is “Identity”.
This is written over the Indispire Prompt,
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