There is a time comes in your life when you realize it very deeply that though you always wish good for your best friend but when he/she really gets something good in life you start to feel jealous about him/her…this is the same thing happened with me few years back…
Though Arnab is elder than me but he never allowed me to call him Dada(elder brother) and our friendship started because we belonged from the same colony, gradually with time this friendship become more strong and we are now good friends. If you look at my life you will find I am actually a third graded student where as Arnab is really a genius student, hard working in nature and very much studious now if you guess that it’s for something related to result for which I felt myself jealous about Arnab then you are wrong. Actually those days we both were in our teen ages and by nature’s rule we both were expecting someone special in our lives, when Arnab was in twelfth standard God accepted his wish and Tina accepted his proposal and his one sided love of one year has got a new track and direction and I was still wishing…this is the time I felt jealous about Arnab, love can’t be brought into life forcefully, if you are a lucky one then you will get it otherwise not. So at the end I had to accept that I am not as lucky as Arnab and still continuing my wish…
Meeting, dating, taking dinner all these started after the board exam of Arnab and in many events I was common, I was the medium.
Time passed by as it does every time; with time the bonding between Aranb and Tina became stronger. As expected Arnab carried excellent marks in board exam and started his graduation. Tina is one year younger than him; she was busy for the upcoming board exam. During graduation Arnab secured very good marks in every exam. This is the time when Tina’s family members came to know about them and after my little amount of help both of their family members approved their relationship.
Arnab was planning for higher studies but suddenly Tina started to force him for their marriage, Arnab already got some good job offers but he did not have any planning to do job rather he has a very good plan for his higher study and future but due to continuous pressure from Tina he had to agree for marriage, that time I talked with Tina and tried to make her understand that there is no hurry to get married so quick and also suggested her to go for higher studies but she did not agree, even her family members also took my side and tried to make her understand but Tina ignored everyone.
So naturally Arnab had to accept a job offer, though the salary was good but not good enough for the expenditures in a metro city like Mumbai, but he had no other way left.
Now Arnab and Tina has a cute baby boy but Arnab is able to meet him once in a month….after one year of marriage Tina started to put pressure on Arnab to buy a house, though Arnab tried a lot to make her understand that his salary was not enough to afford the loan of a house but just like before Tina stayed in his decision and it became the reason of every day agitation in their family and at the end Arnab had to buy a house, except from bank he borrowed money from some of his friends, it happened just two years ago and in the mean time they have been blessed by God with a cute boy or should I say this boy has seen this earth not by the God’s grace rather by Tina’s pressure…I don’t know exactly.
From last one and half Year Arnab is taking much responsibilities in his job field to increase his income and for this reason he has to remain outside home for most of the time, though he is trying his level best but still there is hardly a day in his life when Tina does not shout at her even over phone.
What we exactly want in a relationship?...it’s not the tag or having someone named girlfriend or boyfriend we want understanding, we want that our partner will realize our condition, we want their support , encouragement and dedication, but unfortunately all these are very much absent from Tina’s side…Though she was full time Girlfriend of Arnab but her performances were half, she did not understand the quality of Arnab, she never take care of Arnab’s desires, she never discussed about their future rather she always threw decisions.
Now she is “better Half’ of Arnab and here also her performance is half, she has given the entire load to Arnab just to fulfill her desires only. She never tried to realize what the problem Arnab is facing to run the whole family.
Her performance are always half…it’s easy to be in love but it’s tough to perform the duties and responsibilities as a lover…it is easy to make promises but it’s really very tough to fulfill those, Tina has lots of reason to perform such dictatorship acts but Arnab has only one reason to fulfill her wishes and that reason is …love.
When I think about their life it reminds me of the movies ‘Devdas” and “Hum Dil de Chuke Sanam”…in both the movies(novels) I found ‘Parvati” and “Nandini’ as half girlfriends coz they had lots of reasons to get married with another one but Love never became their reason on the other hand Devdas and Sameer had lots of reason to get married with other girls(after marriage of Parvati and Nandini) but they always found love as the strongest reason to wait and to dedicate their life for the persons they loved most.
When our desktop/laptop is attacked by virus what we do?
Do we call a software engineer and ask him to find out that virus from the system files and also from other files of other drives…we do not do such foolish activity, to find out the viruses and to take necessary steps there are anti-viruses.
Most interesting fact is…anti-viruses are also a computer program just like other software, through net or through pen drives it enters into our system.
Now another important thing is….we do not use ten year old anti-virus at present coz we know it will not be able to take proper action of the present viruses.
“Romeo” …we use it in day to day life as an IRONICAL term, like “Roadside Romeo”…is used to call the eve-teasers who has extraordinary quality to engage themselves for the whole day to harass and disturb the girls.
So far I have read about “Anti Romeo Squad” it has been built up to stop the harassment and the violence the girls are facing while they are outside home, in front of every girl’s school and college these “Romeos” can be found very easily.
It’s the responsibility of our Govt. to give us protection and with that intention if they have built up a special squad then what’s the problem in it?
I have no interest in politics neither I know much about it what I know is…anything which is for the betterment for the society…I will support it, whoever the political party behind it.
Some people have strong objection against this squad and they are citing about “love”, about the most beautiful relationship in this world but they have forgot or totally ignoring the fact that here “Romeo” is not used for the true lovers…it is used for those people who have changed the definition of love, except teasing and harassing the girls they force the girl to be in love with them and if the girl denies there can be many worst consequences.
“Intermingling between girls and boys” should not be stopped but unfortunately not a single parent suggest their child to fall in love….our act sometime is so much contradictory…we support intermingling between girls and boys and we expect that they will not fall in love…we expect the “Basic Instincts” will not work, how can we expect it ?
“Love” itself is like sky…a vast thing, much deeper as you can think…the more deeply you will realize the more deep realizations are still there…a never ending process.
But with time the Romeos has upgraded themselves just like the viruses, if we use ten years old strategy to stop them we will surely meet failure…something new concept is needed…the Police is already there to prevent the heinous activities of “Romeos” but the result you can see…in Tv and news paper, so something new anti-virus is needed and “anti-Romeo squad” is that anti-virus.
Some people has objection for the inspection the squad is doing in colleges and other places, I don’t know whether they have performed any such activity or not but if they do I will surely support it, reason is very simple….in every metro city there are at least one park(Actually more than one) where we can’t visit with elder ones…because there are some Genius love couples who are busy in some SPECIAL work, whenever a new park is under construct the people start to say “God knows for how many days the lovers will allow this park to be socially healthy”, it’s not the fault of the lovers…it’s the fault of those Love couples who actually does not know what actually love is…for them Physical pleasure from the partner is love. I never found the connection between Love couples and the Bushes, why do you need bush or why do you need to hide yourselves behind the tree in parks and grounds?
When you are in love you feel to see your beloved every day, you have an extreme desire to meet her everyday and for this …you can go for evening walk and can talk with your beloved…is not it?
And after certain period if both of you are interested for some physical activity then you can book a room…public display is so necessary?
As I said earlier there are certain parks we can’t visit with the elders and specially can’t take our children there (I am still unmarried, so no question of having child) coz seeing those “Romeo-Juliet’s”(Just like some Romeos there are Juliets also) activity if our children ask…”what are they doing?” What will we answer? We all know full well that these activities can’t be called “Love”. Now in every park there are lots of numbers of couples can be seen and how will you decide who are truly in love? And who are actually there with certain boy and girl to fulfill their teenage curiosity which they thing as love? It’s like finding the virus from thousand of files in our laptops.
So either there should be special parks for the “love couples”(but under observation) so that they stop performing “half mating” in the name of love.
Another important thing is…as I have mentioned earlier…like the virus the “Romeos’ has also upgraded themselves and now a days they play tricks and traps the girls and fulfill their desires to taste lots of girls(Though its sounding filthy but we can’t ignore it, it’s happening)… and at the end they leave the girls…who will stop it?
When we come to know about the eve-teasing and the violence on women through TV channels and news paper we start to make questions about the responsibility of our Govt. and now when they are trying something good we have started to criticize them!!!!...so ridiculous!!!!!
This post is written over IndiSpire prompt 166, the link is given below, you can read other posts also through this link...
Yes, you truly gave me everything, everything my soul was ever longing for,
Peace, Solace, beauty & Butterflies, above all this love,
A kind of love, I was craving since ages,
But in all this midst, I was reminded that everything comes with a tag,
After all things bright & Beautiful, there is a beast along with beauty,
After a little peace there came a tsunami, when you left me in agony,
Yes, that look of yours was enough to create a spark,
But little after that there were those scars that made my soul shiver,
With Love, you gave me a heartache,
But Yes, you taught me what is Love & most eminently what is not,
Whom to love & to whom never.
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Mansi Sharma Mittal is a blogger and a content writer who has worked with prominent brands. Her work has been published in Anthology 'The Seasons '. She also blogs at various parenting sites. She is currently working on her manuscript.To regularly blogs through
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