Ek Chutki Sindoor Ki
Kimat ab mei jan gaya hoon….
Before I
start sharing my views I must inform you that…..this post is neither meant to
hurt anyone nor to oppose any contemporary concept, I have shared my logical
thoughts only.
So, before I
share my logical views I should start with the beginning…
Few months
back during a festival I visited the pandal of my colony, there I saw a girl…a
very beautiful one….i felt “I can die for her”, Generally I don’t visit the
pandal too much coz I am bit introvert but that day seeing the girl I started
to like her so much that I visited the pandal for next two days frequently. The
colony members were gathering there for Puja purpose, so naturally it could be
easily guessed that the girl is from my colony.
After the
festival I asked my family members about that girl, I knew they surely know
about her, when I informed them that I liked the girl a lot my Mom and my Sis
both said the same words…”Oh, Not again”.
I came to
know that the girl lives in my colony, i was surprised when I came to know that her house
is beside the main road of our colony
through which I have crossed numerous numbers of times, I regretted…”Why did
not I notice her earlier”.
The pathetic
moment came when after one month of that festival I came to know that her
marriage has already been fixed and she will get married after two months, I
was surprised again…why it happens with me always, whenever I start to like a
girl she gets married(Kisse bahot hai,Kabhi fursat se sunna chahoge….toh bhi
mei sunaunga nahi)…my heart broken again into small pieces, probably this time
it happened for 51 times, I had nothing to do except seeing her married, so
after two months in a Sunday morning when I was going to market I saw the
pandals in the roof of her house and her house was also decorated with flowers
and lights…what a heart breaking moment.
After one
month of her marriage I saw her waiting beside the main road to avail an auto.
Then two more
months went away, I was busy in searching my dream girl…
Then
suddenly I had an experience that forced me to think about a contemporary
concept…
There is a
certain veg vendor in the mini market near our colony from where I buy
vegetables, that day when I reached the shop there were two customer already
present, so I was waiting until they complete their marketing, and at that time
that same girl came there with a bag in her hand, she was also waiting with me
in front of the shop, approx after three minutes those two customers completed
their shopping and we entered, we saw the son of the shop-owner was taking care
of the shop, a boy hardly of age 16, he looked at that girl and asked…”aunt
tell me what do you want”
After buying
the listed vegetables she paid the bill and went away, then the boy looked at
me and asked…’Dada, tell me what do you want?”
I was
already angry when he called her ‘Aunt’ so I asked ferociously …”why did you
call her “Aunt”, I am Dada and she is aunt!!!! You know she is two years
younger than me.”
The boy was
listening to me with surprised eyes and replied with a trembling voice….”she
looks likes aunt that’s why I have called her so, have not you seen the
bangles in her hands and the vermilion in her head?”…This sentence of the boy
forced me to think about the present concept which has got a height...now-a-days
girls are against to keep any sign of being married, they are against to wear
certain bangles and don’t want to use vermilion in head.
After hearing the sentence from the boy it
forced me to realize…the vermilion in head increases the age of a girl, they
start to look much older than their actual age, actually I was not aware about
this, I heard a present concept that now-a-days married girls are not using vermilion, also heard that some of them doing it with the logic that…when
married men does not contain any sign of marriage then why only girl will
carry? Later I started to enrich my knowledge in this issue, read about it and asked others, what I experienced is…actually there are lots of reasons why girls are not using vermilion, some of those logic I found very much logical
but my another experience really surprised me a lot, when I was searching the
reasons i came across few married women(Girls) who are presently not using vermilion and when I asked them the reason lots of them were unable to explain
or to show any reason…so you can easily guess whats going on there…they are
actually imitating others.
Now the
point is if its only about carrying the SIGNS OF MARRIAGE…then they could
say…. The Girls keep signs of being married so the boys also have to keep the signs by
wearing rings or chains(of certain designs)…will not it be more logical?
The truth
is…there are many married women(girls) who has suddenly stopped using vermilion without knowing why the modern girls are doing this, they are just imitating
the modern age girls, even some girls are not using vermilion seeing the other
girls (who is doing it for some logical reasons), in short some are doing it to
look younger, some are imitating others…these both types of girls don’t know
the actual reasons…..ridiculous!!!!!! Is not it?
I don’t want
to involve myself in much controversial discussion,rather I have a very simple
view in this issue…
Let me analyze
the side effects…
If a married
girl does not keep signs of being married then think how much troublesome it is
for the bachelors like me…how will we know whether the girl is married or not?
Now if I fall in love with such a married girl then is it my fault? It can
happen with bachelor girls also…if the married boys do not keep any sign of
being married then how the unmarried girls will know that the man/boy is
married and if a girl falls in love with such a married boy then is it her
fault?
It has
happened with one of my friend recently…he has fallen in love with a married
girl because the girl does not keep any sign of being married…is this the fault
of my friend?
When the
love is true and pure it becomes really very tough to forget that special
person, so if we , the unmarried boys and girls fall in love with married girls
and boys(who does not keep signs of being married) then who will
suffer?...obviously we will suffer.
But my
friend is in the safe side though he has fallen in love with a married girl,
actually it happened that…long years ago my friend fallen in love with a girl
and after few years that girl got married, long years has went away and now my
friend has fallen in love for second time, the girl is married but luckily it’s
the same girl with whom my friend fallen in love for the first time…he is
safe.
So, I
request earnestly the married girls and boys….pls keep at least one sign of
being married otherwise you will be the reason of sufferings of lots of
bachelors.
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