if we look at the status of the women in our society then its clearly visible that in last twenty years women have changed their social status in a tremendous way, "empowered women" are now a days a matter of discussion and for this change all those girls and ladies have the credit who have fought against the dogmatic thoughts of our society,have proved themselves in different field, have matched their shoulders with the boys, have shown their mental and physical strength with extraordinary fighting spirit, there was a time when women were not allowed to step out behind the curtain, yes i am talking about that era when jobs and education were beyond the imagination of the girls and it took long years for the women to remove the curtain and to step into the outer world,"Rome was not built in a day"...in the same way "empowered women" have not come into existence in a decade but a huge change is not so easy to take place in a vast field, its not easy to come out from your ancient traditional backdated thoughts, neither its possible to change your mentality so easily but for this not only the women have the credit rather a good percentage of credit goes to the parents who have been able to relate with the thoughts and desires of their daughters and have supported them facing the obstacles raised by the society but as i have mentioned above a huge change in thoughts removing your backward thoughts is not easy to take place and so some girls are growing up with those backdated thoughts which they have learnt from their parents and my earnest request to those girls is...try to know yourself as much as deeply as you can otherwise your curiosity can be harmful for others, not clear? OK, let me explain it...if you have been brought up with the thoughts that you are a girl and you should get married as soon as possible when you become eligible for it after a certain age(18+) and if you believe it whole heartily then you should be clear what you want to do and what you should not do, without a single effort to make you understand "what you should not do" i will prefer to focus only on a single activity where you can show "Humanity" or better to say "your common sense", now if you ask me why i am avoiding to make you understand "what you should not do" then let me inform you that...to cover up this topic i have to write a lot and at the end everything will be gone over your brain so its better to avoid such fruitless effort and i think i should concentrate in the issue which any human being with minimum commonsense can understand easily and the issue is...if you don't have fighting mentality, if you are a parasite, if having all the facilities you prefer to spend life depending on others so you are trying to get married as soon as possible just after crossing the certain age then please never ever try to fulfill your curiosity towards "Love" by accepting someone's proposal (whose age is not much higher than you) knowing that how deeply he loves you coz you dont have the fighting mentality neither an indomitable spirit so naturally you will use "love" as a fun or a game which can hurt the feelings of your boyfriend cause you neither have the mentality to fight for your love nor have the mentality to give time to your love life because you have been brought up to get married whenever you get a suitable groom so, "Know thyself" as much as possible, try to realize your mentality and stop playing with the pure and true emotions of the boys only to fulfill your curiosity but here i admit that curiosity towards "love" is very common after a certain age but if you can understand yourself in a deeper way then you can avoid hurting them and also on the other hand you can fulfill your curiosity after the marriage through your spouse which will help you in both the ways...neither you will suffer from guilty consciousness(if you have conscience or consciousness) for playing with the emotion of a boy nor you have to make plan for breakup.
P.S. :- Few months back i have come to know about a girl who have been caught five times with different boyfriends and her actual nature has been exposed and on the other hand a boy loves her from past few years, earlier he never listened to anyone whenever some people have tried to make him aware about the nature of the girl but at present he is blaming himself for being in love with a wrong girl.
"Mohabbat galat nahi hota...galat insan se ho jata hai."